Though we all like different things when it comes to our sex lives, it is possible to detect social trends in our desires. That’s why dating site Saucy Dates decided to ask online respondents a couple of questions about sex — including how long they wanted intercourse to last.
The website asked 3,836 people the following two questions: First, “The last time you had sex (intercourse, not foreplay), how long did it last?” and second, “How long would you like sex (intercourse, not foreplay) to last?” One person’s foreplay, of course, may be another person’s intercourse; intercourse doesn’t necessarily only mean penetrative vaginal sex with a penis, and the survey apparently left the definitions of “foreplay” and “intercourse” up to respondents. The survey results also didn’t note respondents’ sexuality, but given the implication that “intercourse” here means “vaginal sex with a penis,” the emphasis seems to be on largely straight women’s takes on opposite-sex encounters. These caveats aside, it seems like many men and women wish the intercourse they were having lasted longer. The survey found the average time women wanted to engage in intercourse was 25 minutes 51 seconds, while men, on average, were looking for 25 minutes and 43 seconds. That’s pretty close.
However, respondents reported they were having much shorter intercourse sessions than these ideals. For example, 25-to-35-year-old men in the U.S., the U.K., Canada, and Australia claimed they lasted until somewhere around the 16- or 17-minute mark, on average. Saucy Dates’ data found that men in the U.S. and Canada reported lasting the longest, though after the age of 45, men in Australia “are the best performers in the world,” as this survey puts it. (Apparently here, “best performers” and “people who had intercourse for the most minutes before ejaculating” mean the same thing.) While the findings are interesting, they’re not exactly scientific — although Saucy Dates’ conclusion rings true: “Our best advice for everyone is to enjoy the time that it does last and if it’s over too soon then go for a second round.” Our advice, meanwhile, is to define what good sex means to you (and your partner) and go after it, whatever that may look like. Sexual satisfaction depends on a lot more than just duration.
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